It has been taking me two days to start writing this blog. Instead of writing I am doing other things, jumping from one thing to another, busy work, wasting time on FB, in short I feel some resistance.
It’s 10:44 pm now, past my turn off the computer time but I am committed to finish the blog before I go to bed. Here are some strategies to overcome resistance using my example:
1) Find compassion for yourself and look at the resistance with kindness and understanding. Know that it is actually trying to protect you from something.
I had to stop everything and ask myself: why do I feel resistance to write my by-weekly blog? Because I have to work on writing my book and this is a form of stalling or self-sabotage. The defiant voice in my head says: If you cannot write a blog then how are you to write a book? The wise voice replies: what are you trying to protect Irina from? Embarrassment, the defiant one answers.
Wow – it’s true, what if I write and I get judged or misunderstood, worse criticized. What if I expose my soul , my history, my shortcomings and my naiveté and it turns against me? What if people will laugh? What if I cannot actually write? What if I cannot finish it?
Another example, today I was working with a client who wants to start getting clients for her business but has anxiety and cannot network much. We worked with her resistance. The defiant voice in her head said “I am protecting you from getting hurt; the outside world is a dangerous place”. No wonder she gets panic attacks that keep her in the house.
2) Connect with your Higher Self and commit again to your Purpose.
My purpose is to inspire people to transcend the limitations of the past and become truly free, to find inner peace and THRIVE in life and in business. How do I do this? Through teaching what I have learned and sharing my personal experience. How can I reach more people? By writing about my experience in my blog and I can reach even more by writing the book.
I am committed to my purpose. I sacrificed already too much, I went too deep and too far to waver now. I cannot stand by when I see people struggle, wondering why they are not loved, why they are not good enough, why they cannot follow their purpose and be supported. I cannot stand by when I experienced the shifts through the grace of the Source. I cannot let my experience, my suffering, my tears, and my searching go to waste. I cannot pretend I don’t hear the calling to teach, to guide, to heal, to bring peace to the world.
Just before starting to write this blog I turned to angel cards for some guidance. Two cards jumped out from the Ascended Masters Oracle Cards by Doreen Virtue. The first one was “Write” (yes, no kidding), it says “You drew this card as a concrete reminder to write. You’ve received lots of signs and feelings to write lately, so let this card be the message that leads you to take action.”
The second card “Take Charge of This Situation” is says, “it’s time for you to take charge and assume a leadership position” and this is why I know I need to write tonight, no more delay, no more hiding.
3) Be willing to accept the worst case scenario and build emotional strength to know you will be OK.
So let’s assume that I do get criticized for my writings or they are dismissed as having no value. Will I feel embarrassed? I guess that will be my choice. Now, after I connected with my purpose, truth be told, I would feel more embarrassed if I did not answer the calling, if I did not write and if I did not make my experience available to others. I think this feels worse now.
I tell my clients that even Mother Theresa was criticized. I think there was a guy that made his life’s work to criticize what she did. I believe you will agree that this world is a better place because Mother Theresa followed her purpose with unwavering faith. As she says in her beautiful poem Anyway: “it is between you and your God; It was never between you and them anyway”.
Mother Teresa's Anyway Poem
People are often unreasonable, illogical and self centered;
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you've got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and your God;
It was never between you and them anyway.
It’s 12:06 now after midnight and it seems that in the process of writing about overcoming resistance I released my resistance and I finished this blog for you. This is why I feel my challenges are a blessing because they give me something to learn and something to teach. Today working with my client helping her releasing her resistance, I felt so blessed. It seems that I was preparing myself for releasing mine. When you follow your purpose you are given the tools to succeed. Your only job is to overcome resistance and move forward. You only need to take the next step, and then the next, and then the next …
Your Strategic Achievement Assignment:
What is a project that you are resisting working on? What is something you are procrastinating about? Apply one of the 3 Strategies or all and comment below to share how they worked for you. Are there any other strategies you are using to overcome your resistance? Please share.
Blessings to you,